There are plenty of jokes about in-laws, and, unfortunately, some of them are based on the truth. The holidays are one of the most common times when you’ll need to try to be pleasant and cordial. The good news is that you can get through a holiday visit from the in-laws without feeling overwhelmed or overloaded with stress.
One of the best ways to address the situation is to look for common ground. Surely, you have something you agree on. You should also seek out some peace and quiet for yourself. Even if you have to stay up a bit late or get up a few minutes earlier, set aside time to center yourself, focus on the good things in your life, and prepare yourself for what comes next.
1The Holidays Are Temporary
As you approach the holidays and while your in-laws are visiting, remember that the year is long and the holidays are short. Your partner loves these people and wants to see them. You can agree to disagree without being rude or antagonistic; let things go. Does it matter what they think?
You still have time to get away occasionally to experience peace and quiet. Judgment can reflect badly on you, but acceptance paves the way to a smooth holiday. Your house will soon be yours again, and you will have at least one good memory.
2Change Your Point Of View
Try to see your in-laws’ visit from the perspective of your partner. These are his parents. If your partner doesn’t see these people all year, he may miss them a lot. Let peace reign, no matter how you feel toward them. Your spouse will appreciate your consideration, and your holidays will be more memorable.
3Suggest Things Your Spouse Can Do With Their Parents
That gives them plenty of time to enjoy each other’s company and allows you to go off and do something you would prefer to do. That way, you limit your time with your in-laws without seemingly being rude. Be considerate, and it will help you stay happy and peaceful throughout the holidays.
4Listen To What They Have To Say
When you do spend time with your in-laws, really listen to what they have to say. You may learn something about them that makes you appreciate them more or changes your perception of them. The holiday will be what you make of it, so take the time to make it a good one for everyone.
During the holidays, lives are hectic. The visit from the in-laws is simply one part of the equation. The time with them can contribute to the positive experiences of the holiday season if you approach it with a positive spirit and a sense of compassion for everyone involved. You can get through the in-laws’ holiday visit with a smile and maybe even look forward to their next visit.
Arlene Garretson is a proud resident of Daytona Beach, Florida, mother, and author. When she isn't writing about self-help, she enjoys hiking and photography: a great combination.
